I won’t lie.

While I love both marrieds and singles, this week my focus and my attention is on the single community.

It’s hard to be single when the world is focused on love. It really is.

This holiday makes us much more cynical, but I’ve come to see that that cynicism is simply a way for us to protect ourselves.

Instead of self-protection, why not consider some God honoring strategies to help us fight the Valentine blues? Here are 4 ways that might help you find joy this V week:

#1 Fix your Mind on Jesus

For one thing, Jesus was single so He totally sympathizes with anyone who doesn’t have a valentine’s this year. He is also compassion and understanding. He is unstoppable love. He is all things good. He is joy. As my pastor said recently “to be heavenly minded is to be earthly good”. So true.

#2 Surround Yourself with Community

Nothing will defeat the blues like finding yourself a group of people and hanging out with them. It will be annoying at first. It will mean changing your schedule around and getting through the awkward phase at first, but eventually, you’ll see that God’s plan for us to find joy in community works.

#3 Get off Social Media

I have found my joy to be directly proportional to the time I spend off social media. I used to be miserable. I would look at what everyone else was doing and feel bad. I used to monitor other people like my life depended on it and noticed that my peace was being squeezed out of my soul the longer I fixed my eyes on the screen. So I unplugged. Try it and see how much healthier you will feel.

#4 Grab a Towel and Wash Feet

I don’t mean that literally, but I really do mean it. The easiest way to stop thinking about yourself and your sad plight is to think about someone else and their needs. As a single Christian, it’s easy for me to get caught up in a web of me/myself/I and lose sight of everyone else. I want someone to wash my feet for heaven’s sakes. Yet our Lord himself grabbed a towel and stooped low, and simply washed dirty feet. He did that on the night before He was crucified. Seems like a pretty big deal to me.

There is something else you can do: send me an email and tell me your story. I’d love to hear from you. I’d love to pray for you. And you know that no matter what, you have a friend in me.